Little things you can do to upgrade your life
Sit up straight
Walk confidently
Speak slowly and don’t use slang, incorporate new vocabulary.
Think before you speak. Is that TMI? Is that negative? Words are powerful, use them wisely
When someone gives you a compliment, always accept it with a “thank you” even if you disagree
Compliment strangers
Drink a cup of warm water when you wake. It has the same effect as lemon water but it’s better for your teeth
Aim to drink 2L of water a day.
If you drink 30 min before your meal you will eat less. Don’t drink any liquids while you eat or until 30 min after your meal, it’s better for your digestion
Want a flat stomach? Don’t eat anything 4 hours before bed and only eat the size of your fist in carbs per day
Practice mindfulness, notice when your mind wanders and bring your attention back to the present
Meditate 5 min every morning or in bed at night
Charge your phone in the living room at night so you’re not tempted to look at it before bed or first thing in the morning. Plus, you’ll have to get up to turn the alarm off so you won’t snooze
Make your bed every morning
Clutter is mentally toxic, keep only what you need and keep it tidy
Aim to only clean your home for 5 minutes a day. You’ll probably end up doing more. This trick works for anything you don’t want to do
When shopping, don’t buy things the same day. If you still want them after a few days, go back
Always do your best. Always
Forget motivation. Count from 5 to 1 if you need to do something you don’t want to. It tricks your brain. You can also focus on how you’ll feel once you’ve completed the task instead of thinking of the task itself.
Buy fresh flowers for your home.
Pamper yourself. You can do it yourself at home
Get massages. You can get Groupons
Always have manicured nails and toes. Sèche Vite top coat is a must!
Buy nice pyjamas and lounge wear. Look good for yourself.
Listen to classical music when you study and when you clean your home
Listen to music when you drive. While others will be road raging, you’ll be too busy vibing to notice
Use the 50/30/20 rule for your finances. 50% on living expenses, 30% on entertainment and shopping and 20% in savings
Take advantage of banks offering money to open new accounts
Have an emergency fund: 3-6 months worth of living expenses in a high interest savings account
Celebrate every time you get money whether it’s in interest, pay checks or even money you find on the floor. You can just do a little dance. You’ll attract more wealth.
Leave money around your house. It will be a reminder that money is abundant.
Watch only 1h of TV a day and no reality TV
Don’t read gossip magazines/blogs.
Get a library card and read at least one book a month.
Cut out toxic people. If you can’t, try not to be around them as much
Socialize with loved ones a bit everyday even if it’s just a phone call. It’s good for morale
Treat everyone with respect. If someone disrespects you, know that it’s got nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and don’t get caught up in it, keep your composure, you’re better than that
Take up a hobby or two, you’ll be a more interesting, well-rounded person
Listen to podcasts
Try only changing one thing at a time. 3 months of consistency doesn’t mean you’re out of the woods, but it’s the foundation. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you stray. Habits you’ve had for 20-30-40 years will not be easy to change. Baby steps ;)
Motivation is overrated. No amount of motivation would’ve gotten me through hours of my accounting textbook. No “vision” is enough to keep me awake til the crack of dawn on an essay that I don’t even know if the professor will check. Discipline is what determines how far you go. On those days when your cute little list of #goals and vision of yourself 5 years from now aren’t enough, discipline will pull you out of bed and get you to work. I wish I knew this in high school because I thought I couldn’t work without motivation. I wasted so much time trying to find purpose before I realized that working now, albeit blindly, will ensure that I could chase any purpose I discover in the future. Sure, motivation is crucial, but it’s not consistent. It’s not reliable. You can only rely on yourself and your grit.
How to Feign Your Life is Together
Have a signature accessory, clothing article, make up look, or hair style.
Have a fragrance. Make your hair scents and lotions match your perfume.
It’s okay to dine alone. Bring a book or people watch.
Love your hair. Research the best brands for your hair type and use masks weekly.
Your nails don’t need to be fancy, but keep them maintained.
Stay worldly. Know works of art, artists, designers, films, books, politicians. Spend your lunch break reading the paper or a magazine.
Crying is not a weapon. It’s okay to feel your emotions, but never use them as an excuse to avoid your problems.
Jealousy is boring. Love and appreciate others. If you can’t love them, forget them.
Boost others. Flatter others, but don’t deprecate yourself in the process.
Don’t sulk. Don’t let the whole world know your problems. If you don’t want someone to give their opinion, don’t share your situation.
Your life is between you and the universe. Don’t post your personal matters for others to see.
Don’t emotionally blackmail others. They hurt you? Let them know and then move on. It’s between the two of you and not the world.
Cook dinner. Cook dinner and listen to music, the radio, or a podcast.
Treat yourself to candles and flowers. Be your own cheerleader.
Take naps. Take a cat nap on a Sunday afternoon with the blinds open and the fan on high.
Drink your water, eat your vegetables. Take care of your body.
Never have time to take off your jewelry before bed, but always have time to take off your makeup. Your nighttime skin regime is important.
Mystery is beautiful. You don’t need to reveal much of or about yourself.
Never appear other than as you are. Don’t lie about yourself. Embrace who you are at your core.
♡ types of crushes; venus sign edition
aries venus: infatuated crush. their love is possessive and on fire. they want to spend every living, waking moment with you and when they aren’t, you’re the only thing on their mind. their heart is aflame and you’re the air that’s only making it grow.
taurus venus: cherished crush. they’re there for you! always and forever. if you need anything, they want you to let them supply it. whether it be safety, comfort, or support; your happiness is their happiness. let them take care of you, that’s all they want.
gemini venus: breathtaking crush. ‘love is a game’ has never meant more to anyone than these people. expect the unexpected with them, because you’ll never see anything coming. and if you find yourself getting too comfortable, they’ll shock you all over again. they’re conversations at 3am and the real laughter from your stomach. they’ll make you wonder what fun was before you met them.
cancer venus: first love crush. every time feels like the first to them. they’ll fall in love a million times and still want to give nothing but the world to that person. they’re blushing easily and soft smiles. they’re doodling hearts in a notebook and laying in bed dreaming of confessing their feelings.
leo venus: grand crush. in love with the idea of love, you may have a hundred and one crushes but you’ll always know when you really fall in love. they’re being on the top of the world and never wanting to come down. feeling like the only two people on earth and as if you’re constantly spinning in a dream. love may not exactly be forever for them, but they always make the most of it when it’s there.
virgo venus: devoted crush. very similar to taurus, these people are always there for you. even though their love is light like a breeze, their feelings are always very very real. they’re grocery shopping at 6am & starting a bubble war with the soapy dish water. love is supposed to be comfortable and like home to them.
libra venus: enchanted crush. crushes are easy to fall in for you but also easy to fall out of; and the other person would have never even known. you treat love as if it’s a unfamiliar reality with an infinite amount of things to be discovered and experienced. love is always a fairytale for you.
scorpio venus: intoxicating crush. they engulf you when they have a crush; similar to aries. they’re possessive and addicted to being around you. they want to break you down to your center and memorize all your scars and deeply hidden secrets until there’s nothing left except two souls. then you’ll be with them for life.
sagittarius venus: wild crush. you want nothing more than to see the world and break all the rules with the one you love. these crushes are impulsive and insane and they make you feel the true beauty in life and forget all the questions or unknown. they’re fast and they strike hard and then leave you wanting more when it’s all over.
capricorn venus: tender crush. these crushes are always a secret for the entire time they’re there, never even beginning to think of making the first move. they’re warm and innocent yet also very mature and serious. they’re talking about you to their friends and gazes across a room, devoted time and putting you first. they’re always one of the best because they’re filled with real loyalty and care; a type you can’t find any other place.
aquarius venus: best friend crush. they’re your best friends, because it’s hardly unlikely they would fall in love with you any other way. they’re intrigued and in love with all your flaws and differences from the world, admiring you like a star in their very dark sky. these crushes are unique and rare.
pisces venus: daydream crush. you’re the inspiration behind their poetry and their art. you’re their comforting thought and safe place for them to go. they think about you all the time but always in a caring way: whether you’ve ate, drank plenty of water, got a good nights sleep, had a hard day. you’re always on their mind, and they care the world for you; whether they’ve told you or not.